Love Clarity Podcast

🎙️ Episode 23: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who Hurt You

You left. You blocked them. You’re not going back.So why can’t you stop thinking about them?
This episode gently unpacks what obsession really is —not love, not weakness, but a nervous system still frozen in pain that never felt safe enough to end.I’ll walk you through the hidden layers of emotional spiraling and how to begin your return to peace.
💔 What you’ll walk away with:✔️ A trauma-informed lens on why obsession happens✔️ The real reason your body can’t let go✔️ A pathway to healing that starts with presence, not pressure
If this episode speaks to a tender part of you,you’re welcome inside the Love Clarity Inner Circle,where we keep walking this healing path together.

🎙️ Special Episode: Coming Home To Your Body with Kausar and Doucky

For this special episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, we’re not talking about weight loss…
We’re talking about coming home to your body—and what happens when you stop chasing a number and start choosing yourself.
My guests are Kausar and Doucky, co-founders of BFF—Become Fit Forever—a movement, method, and mindset that’s helped thousands of women over 40 heal their relationship with food, fitness, and self-worth.
This episode is for you if:💭 Your body doesn’t feel like home anymore🍪 You swing between restriction and binge eating💤 You’re exhausted, wired, or both🥲 You’ve done the diets, but still feel lost🧠 You know what to do—but can’t seem to do it
Together, we unpack:🌀 Why willpower isn’t the problem—cortisol is💪 How muscle is the real fountain of youth🧭 The shift from guilt and confusion to clarity and self-trust👯‍♀️ Why community and bestie energy are essential for real change
And we ask the deeper questions:What does self-love actually look like in daily life?What’s the belief you need to release in your 40s to reclaim your power?And why does chasing a smaller number on the scale leave you feeling less of yourself?
This is an episode full of laughter, science, sisterhood, and soul.
And if something clicks for you, DM them on Instagram @become.forever for a free 30-minute clarity call.
You're not lazy.You're not broken.You're just not meant to do this alone.

🎙️ Episode 22: Are They Confused… or Just Controlling?

On this week’s episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, we’re talking about something that looks like indecisionbut feels like emotional whiplash:
Are they confused… or are they just controlling you?
At first, it sounds innocent:“I’m not ready”“I just need time”“I’m figuring things out”
But then:🎢 They disappear, then flood you with messages🎭 They cry, apologize, and make big promises🪞 They say all the right things without doing the right things
And every time you get clear on what you want, they pull you right back in.
In this episode, we unpack:
⚠️ How emotional confusion can be used as a form of control💬 The difference between real uncertainty and manipulation💔 The cost of constantly adjusting yourself to keep the peace🌱 What real love feels like: honest, consistent, and calm
If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking to fit someone else’s fogor mistaking emotional chaos for emotional depththis episode is your reminder:
You’re not too muchYou’re not asking for too muchYou’re just done living in limbo
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🎙️ Episode 21: The Narcissistic Cycle of Idealize, Devalue, Discard

On this week’s episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, I’m talking about a cycle that feels like magic at first but slowly shatters your sense of self:
The narcissistic cycle: idealize, devalue, discard.
It starts with intense connection.They say you're their soulmate.They mirror your words.They make you feel seen in a way you didn’t know was possible.
And then💔 The warmth turns cold🧊 Affection disappears🗣 You’re told you’re “too much,” “not fun anymore,” “too emotional”
And just like that, they vanish or stay and punish you with silence.
In this deeply personal episode, we explore:🧠 How love bombing confuses attention with intimacy🚨 The signs you’re in a narcissistic cycle and why it’s so hard to leave🫂 What your longing is really trying to tell you🌿 The truth about healing: only you can break the cycle
If you’ve ever chased the version of them from the beginning, blamed yourself when it changed, or wondered how you became unrecognizable to yourself, this episode is for you.
You're not brokenYou're not naiveYou're just ready to stop performing for love that was never real
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🎙️ Special Episode: Unlearn The Scripts That Keep Us Stuck with Monica Tanner

For this special episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, I sat down with Monica Tanner—relationship coach, podcast host, and author of Bad Marriage Advice—for a vibrant, eye-opening conversation about the myths we inherit about love… and the quiet ways they keep us stuck, silenced, or spinning our wheels.
Whether you’ve ever heard yourself say “I don’t want to rock the boat” or “I guess this is just what marriage looks like,” this episode offers a loving challenge: What if the real problem isn’t your relationship—but the outdated scripts you’ve been taught to follow?
Inside this rich and relatable episode, you’ll hear:💬 Why “Happy Wife, Happy Life” can quietly disempower both partners🛑 Why “Don’t sweat the small stuff” can turn molehills into mountains🧠 How our brains trick us into solving the wrong problems in marriage❤️‍🩹 Why relational skills—not just love—are essential for long-term connection📣 How to make skillful requests that actually get heard and honored
Monica shares grounded, funny, and powerful truths that invite us to stop trying to win the relationship and start learning how to nurture it—with communication, curiosity, and compassion.
So if you’ve been stuck between wanting peace and needing change, this episode will remind you:You don’t have to keep carrying what was never yours to hold.You don’t have to fight to be seen.You just need the right tools… and the right truths.
💡 Ready to stop outsourcing your peace and start creating relational clarity? Join the Love Clarity Inner Circle, where we practice healing the skills that love alone can’t teach.
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🎙️ Episode 20: Is It Love or Is It Emotional Abuse?

On this week’s episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, Sanya Bari—relationship trauma therapist, coach, and survivor—dives into one of the hardest questions you can ask yourself in love: “Is this really love… or is it emotional abuse?”
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🎙️ Episode 19: The Difference Between Loyalty and Self-Betrayal

On this week’s episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, Sanya Bari—relationship trauma therapist and coach—unpacks a hard but healing truth: sometimes, what we call loyalty is actually self-betrayal in disguise.
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🎙️ Episode 18: You’re Not “Too Masculine.” You Don’t Feel Safe.

On this week’s episode Sanya challenges the cultural myth of being “too masculine” and reframes it through the lens of safety, survival, and emotional wisdom.
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🎙️ Episode 17: How to Stop Spiraling in Conflict (And Feel Safe in Love Again)

On this week’s episode of The Love Clarity Podcast, Sanya Bari—relationship trauma therapist and coach—unpacks what really happens when conflict sends your nervous system into overdrive. 
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🎙️ Episode 16: Energetic Debt — The Hidden Reason You’re Burnt Out and Missing the Life You Want

Today we’re talking about a kind of exhaustion that rest can’t fix.The kind that doesn’t live in your schedule—But deeper - in your soul.
 
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